I heard Sandra Yancey, founder of eWomen Network, speak recently and really enjoyed it. She is one of many speakers I’ve heard who have quoted the idea that "you ARE the average of the five people you spend the most time with." This idea includes everything, from your actual net worth to the values and interests and quality of life that you have.
One of the big cellular phone providers has a promotion going on about your "Fave Five" people that you call frequently, and they are putting the question out there about who your Fave Five would be. So in the spirit of this "averaging" idea, ask yourself, "Who are your Fave Five?" You can decide for yourself if family "counts" or not– the idea is that you take stock for a moment of the most important relationships in your life that are influencing who you are and who you will become.
When you boil it down, organizing our lives is ultimately about arranging our world to support us in becoming who we aspire to be, and it also includes decluttering the relationships that are not serving us. Is someone in your "Fave Five" contributing to your having less value, less freedom, less encouragement, less belief in yourself? Is someone’s chaotic life bleeding over into your own? Do you aspire to the qualities that these people display to the world? Are these relationships positive? Do you WANT TO be the average of these particular five people?
Maybe your Fave Five needs decluttering… this is not an easy thing sometimes, but it doesn’t always have to be a big visible ordeal like a divorce. It can be a shift, a different choice of how you spend your time. Just start by being conscious of your choices for your "Fave Five."
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